Are you Emotionally Intelligent?

Yes, I am asking you that are you emotionally intelligent? not your IQ, your emotional power? how much you have control over your emotions? Historically, the IQ was one of the criterion for the success but during the '80s the researches were conducted and proved that IQ is not the sole criterion of individual success. So what is next? the rest was Emotional Intelligence or EQ. 

"A good IQ can secure you a job but a good EQ helps you to progress in your career and personal life"

Our Intelligence Quotient(IQ) can help us to clear the aptitude test and we can land at our dream job but to carry out the job successful we need to coordinate and lots of teamwork is required to effectively carry out our job. In carrying out the job we need to bear the support and no-support, denial and resistance from various team members and stakeholders and if we are not competent to bear this rejection than we might emotionally hurt and our business and employment deals turn into hot discussion and differences and eventually we are left out. 

So, later in 90s Danieal Goleman published his book on Emotional Intelligence in 1995 based on the work of Peter Salovey and his companion(couldn't remember the name). There is another book by Dr. Travis Bradberry with the title of Emotional Intelligence 2.0 and this is a powerful and superb book on learning EQ and workable strategies to build your EQ.

I have also read the work from Dalip Singh presenting the South Asian touch and his work was also interesting and I learn a lot from his book, "Emotional Intelligence at Work". Nowadays when life is very fast and we hardly find time for ourselves so how it is possible to listen to the differences from other and this require a lot of patience and empathy which is the key point of EQ. Let me share an interesting experience of mine and I faced a situation at the office with a senior professional who ran out of emotions and almost burst on me. Being a junior colleague in age and job grade I  politely clear my position but he was not ready to listen and within a minuted leave his room and I was like ... @ # %@ :-0 ..... There I realized that he was emotionally outburst and yes the reason was the formal official procedure and due to the delay he feels powerless and then suddenly ruled by his emotion.

That episode taught me something interesting about EQ, irrespective of the details survey form by Danial Goleman and Dr. Travis Bradberry ask or observe these questions and assess your opponent behavior or situation handling and observe his behavior. If he remains calm or control than assume he is being emotionally intelligent otherwise it's better to remain quiet or less responsive so that you could take save passage from such situation. So what are those questions or situation?

1.  The disturb situation is being created by human or controllable, like office environment or meeting, friends gathering or home conversation.
2. The decision is not in your favor or you are not willing to accept other opinions.
3. That decision could affect your working or relation.
4. While you are felling the potential outbursts of your emotions.
5. The opponents are preferably junior, or at a lower position or you are at the upper side.

If in the above situation you have experienced an outburst of emotions and your over-power your opponent(s) then you are controlled by your emotions. You are an emotionally driven personality and chances are bright that you're not welcome by that or another person.

So my friends, do not let your emotions control you or drive your decisions. Its good to be emotional but while making the major or minor decision be careful, be rational, take your time and build your credibility. Have a close on your emotions, label them and deal them accordingly.

Be an emotionally smart person and build your relation, in fact attractive relations!

Cheers!

PS:I have conducted a various session on EQ based on research work by psychologists if you want them do let me know: